The Value of Politeness in Romantic Love

Aaron Ben-Ze’ev; Mollie Teitelbaum

doi:10.1007/978-3-030-81592-9_8

The Value of Politeness in Romantic Love

Aaron Ben-Ze’ev, Mollie Teitelbaum

Department of Philosophy

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Abstract

Human beings are social animalsSocial animal; our interactions with other people are essential to our wellbeing. These interactions can be of various kinds: pleasant or nasty, beneficial or harmful, exciting or dull, interesting or boring, and so forth. Such interactions between the agent and others underlie the generation of positive or negativeNegative emotionemotionsEmotion. PolitenessPoliteness is a behavioral tool for smoothing these interactions and making them more pleasant. Is this tool also necessary in close relationships, such as romantic ones, where the interactions are typically more direct, sincere, and spontaneous? The answer is complex, since there are various types ofTypes of politenesspolitenessPoliteness and different circumstances in which we exercise them.

Original language	English
Title of host publication	Advances in (Im)politeness Studies
Publisher	Springer Nature
Pages	137-153
Number of pages	17
DOIs	https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-81592-9_8
State	Published - 2021

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Name	Advances in (Im)politeness Studies
Volume	Part F4624
ISSN (Print)	2524-4000
ISSN (Electronic)	2524-4019

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Keywords

Deception
Emotion
Flattery
Romantic love
Sincerity
Value of politeness

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Linguistics and Language

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