Intimate Partner Violence Forgiveness Dynamics in the Context of Men’s Positions as Victims and Perpetrators: A Dyadic Perspective

Recent years have seen increased awareness of the need to understand forgiveness in the context of intimate partner violence (IPV). The present qualitative study focused on how male batterers and female victims perceived and interacted with forgiveness. The study was based on in-depth semi-structured interviews with 15 spouses who had been married for between 4 and 30 years. The study findings show that the male batterers perceived forgiveness confusingly out of their dual self-perception as both perpetrator and victim. However, whether as perpetrator or victim, they clung to the position of forgiver. This dual perception blurred the spouses’ perpetrator and victim roles as well as the gap between seeking and granting forgiveness. Both spouses tended to be trapped in their own self-perception as forgiver and hence, the issue of forgiveness preserved the status quo in the relationship and the preservation of power experience.